larry schwab, MFT, LMFT
Individual, Couple, Group, or Family Therapy with an Experienced Therapist:
Thirty Years of Experience
Larry Schwab, MFT, LMFT has worked with individuals, couples and families for three decades, and has been conducting a mid-life Men’s Group for ten years. Whatever relational or emotional difficulty you may be facing, you are welcome to call for help. Healthy relational skills will be emphasized throughout your therapy experience, because relationships really matter, perhaps more than we realize.
It’s Never Too Late To Work Together to Improve Your Relationships
Personal relationships can also be tense relationships.
It is unfortunately very common for you to be experiencing drama, tension, and possibly disappointment in your most intimate family relationships. An experienced therapist will not be surprised by your story, and can be a source of stability and neutrality for you.
You may need a guide to improve your relationships.
Individual, family, or couples counseling can introduce you to a set of skills that you need to reduce tension, communicate better, build trust and feel more intimate with a family member or partner It is difficult to ask for help with something personal and intimate, but sometimes that is what you need, and seeking help is often better than trying to solve the problem yourself.
It is good for your immune system to handle stress well.
The stress you experience when there is constant tension can lead to health problems. When your body is put in a state of high tension day after day and year after year, the effects can be harsh. The body takes a beating. If your relationships are in trouble why not learn how to raise the alarm, try to solve your problems, and reduce tension?
For couples: Effective couples counseling
Marriage is a surprisingly complicated contract, and it is fair to be held accountable.
There are two of you, and you entered your joint experience with separate expectations and needs. Part of the art of staying a couple is to get comfortable with the fact that there are two of you with valid emotions, needs and feelings. This contract gives you the expectation that marriage is an exclusive relationship and that needs for connection, affection and sex will be met within the relationship. When these expectations and needs are not met within the relationship, the marriage becomes very vulnerable. If the contract feels broken, or the familiar kindnesses have gone away, you may need to check on your relationship with a counselor, in neutral territory.
Don’t delay. Learn how to reduce tension and get your needs met through genuine intimacy.
Every day, couples take charge of their lives in a new way and take the step into a counselor’s office to talk about themselves, and find that it is safe, supportive and useful to share the experience together. We start a conversation together, try to understand what has been happening, and then make plans for working together. The counseling itself is an important shared experience that can enhance intimacy.
Small changes, like showing appreciation and kindness, make a big difference.
The changes you need to make may not be as major as you think. The “climate” of a relationship can be changed by starting conversations in a different way, or catching yourself when you know you are about to add to the amount of tension. Staying focused on behaviors that make the two of you feel closer, rather than a power struggle in which each tries to prove that they are right, is one of the keys to a successful marriage. Without help, the hurtful things that are said and done can harm the fabric of a marriage.
You can learn to speak and listen in a softer, kinder way. Couples react badly to conflict, and need new skills.
You will be asked to communicate differently with your partner, be more aware of the effect you are having on each other, and consider the choices you are making when you communicate. Researchers have found that couples suffer if there are more negative messages than positive ones. We respond badly if we don’t feel appreciated, or keep hearing negatives. It is important to communicate differently. Statements about your partner tend to raise tension, while statements about yourself are safer. You will be asked to be honest about your own reactions to stressful tense moments, and try out new approaches so you can avoid conflict more effectively. Once you begin doing this, you’ll find your partner will respond differently, too. Soon you’ll find that you can resolve conflicts more easily and find them far less frightening. It is a learning process that is healthy, positive, and part of your personal growth.
Learn How to:
Understand and comfort and work with your partner even when you are upset or disagree.
Discuss events that have put your relationship at risk.
Listen to your partner.
Tell your partner what you want instead of expecting your partner to know.
Be thoughtful, curious and concerned about your partner
Stand your ground when it matters.
Give support for your partner’s goals.
Consider Investing in a Larger Dose of Couples Counseling:
Meet for a half day or a full day. Dive in and focus on your relationship in a serious way. Learn more about how to change. Give your partnership the intense work it deserves.
Intense Couples Counseling appointments – Fridays or weekends – half day or full day.
Mr. Schwab will help you take advantage of health insurance by issuing a receipt that can be used to make out-of-network claims
Take the first step towards better relationships.
Pick up the phone and call (610) 565-1628.